Tuesday, April 20, 2010

The whos and the whys

I need to amend something about my previous post.

I don't know how much I believe about that list of things I can't have. It's easy enough to avoid the seafood because I don't like anything but fish and I'm ok eating low mercury fish exclusively. And the processed meats can be heated and so I can eat those. But my point is, the reason I'm being so OCD about all of this is my mother.

Whenever I am typing away on my computer, my husband asks me if I am writing about whatever recent skirmish we've had. The answer to that is always a no. That's not the point of this blog. We hardly ever fight about anything pregnancy related.

My mother, on the other hand, fights with me regularly. Usually it's just her nagging me to do more things or not to do things, but lately it's gotten more heated. Yes, she is a very good resource for me and I trust her opinions, but it's also sort of driving me crazy.

For example: Caffeine. After my reading of lots of things, I don't believe that small quantities of caffeine will be any problem for me or my fetus. A coke (made with sugar) here or there or an arnold palmer is just fine. In fact, given my lack of energy, it seems appropriate. But my mom does not believe this. She wants me to be 100% off caffeine, probably to the point of limiting my chocolate intake. She keeps telling me to go look it up. I have and I don't agree with her.

But you know what, as much as I fight with people in my life, I don't actually enjoy it. I talk to my mom a lot and I rely on her for her knowledge and advice. Fighting with her is irritating to both of us and is straining our relationship. Since after months of it she isn't budging that means that I'm the one who has to change.

And thus, the previous post and list. I may not buy into everything on that list, but it's a comprehensive list of everything I've come across that I'm trying to abide by. It's driving me crazy to do it, but I'm trying. But mom, I'm also MUCH crankier because of it, so cut me some slack.

1 comment:

  1. i have to agree with you. i am also pregnant, due in early October and i eat lunch meat and hot dogs. i consume coffee and coke daily and i wouldn't be afraid of beef jerky or pineapple. heck--morel mushrooms are a popular snack in our neck of the woods this time of the year and i ate some of those too! that's right--a fungus from the woods. some of the other things on the list i have to agree with--shell fish, uncooked eggs--you know, the obvious ones.

    happy pregnancy and good luck with your family conversations.